Full Moon Reflections

By Bonnie Durkin - 12/4/25

By Bonnie Durkin - 12/4/25

Author, Speaker, Energy Alignment Practitioner & Personal Empowerment Coach

Full Moon Reflections

The holiday season is upon us, and I know many of us are feeling the mix of emotion that comes with this time of year — overwhelm, sadness, uncertainty, reflection, hope, tenderness, and the desire to close out the year feeling a little lighter and a little more aligned.

As we approach the end of 2025, tonight’s full moon offers a powerful opportunity to get honest with ourselves about what we may need to release before stepping into a brand-new year. I recently watched a video from Patty Lennon that I found both interesting and deeply insightful, and I’m sharing the essence of her message with you in the blog post below.

If you’d like to watch Patty’s original video, you can find it here.

Now, let’s dive in.


Full Moon Reflections: A Powerful Moment to Release, Reset & Realign

We have a powerful full moon rising — a bright, expansive super moon in Gemini — and its energy brings a unique invitation: it’s time to tell ourselves the truth, ground deeply, and prepare to release what can’t come with us into the new year.

Gemini energy often feels like multiple parts of us speaking at once. This makes sense because we’re standing in a major transition: the ending of a nine-year cycle and the approach of a brand-new one-year cycle beginning in 2026.

This is a profound pivot point. There is a “leaving behind” happening and a “becoming” happening simultaneously.

This can show up as emotional swings, mixed thoughts, resurfacing habits, unexpected reactions, or bursts of clarity followed by moments of doubt. It’s normal. It’s part of the shift.

If you’re feeling this inner push-pull, you’re not alone. And if you’re not feeling it, that’s a sign of deep inner work already done.

Either way, this full moon marks a precious preparatory window — a moment to let go of the old so you can step into the year ahead with more clarity, strength, and alignment.

Below are the five themes that emerged from Patty’s message, captured and shared here to support your own reflection tonight.


1. Tell Yourself the Truth

This full moon carries the energy of the “sword of truth.”
It’s asking you to be deeply honest — not harsh, not judgmental, simply honest.

There may be something you’ve been tolerating, avoiding, or hoping would fix itself. This is the time to shine light on it.

The moon acts as a witness.
A mirror.
A gentle but clear illumination.

Use this moment to ask:
What truth have I been afraid to acknowledge — and am I ready to honor it now?

When we tell ourselves the truth, we cut through noise, confusion, and emotional fog. We free ourselves.


2. Ground Yourself

The energy of this moon is big, fast-moving, and transformative.
To receive its clarity fully, grounding is essential.

Imagine roots growing from your feet or spine deep into the earth.
Let yourself feel steady, held, anchored.

Grounding allows the energy of release and renewal to move through you in a healthy, balanced way — rather than feeling overwhelming or chaotic.


3. Let Love Lead

As you release what needs to go — a belief, a pattern, a fear, an expectation, a responsibility that was never yours — you might feel guilt, sadness, or self-judgment.

Let love guide you through it.

Love for yourself, first.
Love for others, second.
But always in that order.

If a decision feels hard, ask:
What would love do?

And trust the quiet clarity that follows.


4. Receive the Light That’s Available

There is a wave of “starlight energy” — cosmic, spiritual, or simply universal support — moving toward us right now. Even if your path feels dark or uncertain, this moon reminds you that there is more light within reach than you may realize.

If you can, step outside tonight and let the moonlight touch your skin.
Imagine it filling your mind, heart, and body.

If you can’t go outside, close your eyes and visualize the light entering you.

Let it remind you that you are guided, supported, and not alone.


5. This Is Your Journey

This full moon brings you back to your own path.

Not what others think.
Not what others expect.
Not what others are choosing.

This is your life, your journey, your healing, your evolution.

Stay with yourself.
Trust your inner compass.
Release the comparisons.

What’s right for you may not look right to anyone else — and that’s how it should be.


Closing Reflection

This full moon is a threshold.
A doorway.
A moment of completion and new beginnings.

A moment to:

  • release what no longer serves you
  • tell yourself the truth
  • steady your energy
  • let love guide your choices
  • receive the light that’s here to support you
  • step forward with clarity and courage

You are in a powerful chapter of your evolution. You are becoming more of who you truly are. And you do not walk this path alone!

Below are several mantras you can repeat tonight or throughout the week:

• “I release what was, I rise into what’s next.”
• “I walk forward in truth, strength, and light.”
• “I am guided, I am grounded, I am becoming.”
• “I let go with love and step into my new beginning.”
• “Light fills me, love leads me, and I trust my path.”

Wishing you a peaceful & illuminating full moon!
Bonnie

The "I Get To Shift!" 7-Day Challenge - experience the power of a mindset shift in just one week! Take our FREE 7-Day Challenge and see how your Perspective & Mood start elevating and transforming with simple daily shifts!

Ready to change your perspective and feel lighter, happier, and more empowered in just 7 days?

What if three simple words could change how you feel… and how you live? “I GET TO…”

I Get To Shift! – 7 Day Challenge 
A gift to help you kick off summer in a higher vibe.

Every day for 7 days, you’ll learn how to shift from “I have to” ➝ “I get to”
…and watch how your mood, energy, and outlook on life transform.

You’ll get:

  • Daily mindset shifts
  • A beautiful printable workbook
  • Simple practices that uplift your emotions + attract more good
  • A deeper connection to gratitude and possibility

Science shows that just 7 days of consistent practice can actually begin to rewire your brain.

How? It all comes down to neuroplasticity—your brain’s incredible ability to change and adapt. Every time you choose a new thought, reaction, or way of seeing something, you’re creating new neural pathways. And when you do that over several days, those pathways strengthen—making it easier to think differently, feel better, and act with more intention.

This challenge is based on the most-loved concept from my book The Appreciation Game: A 30-Day Process to Increase Happiness, Satisfaction & Well-Being. Day Nine – I Get To… This process is the one so many people told me was their favorite and even life-changing. And this 7-Day Challenge is also a sneak peek into my next book, which is all about how shifting your perception changes your life.

I hope you’ll join in this fun experiment in changing perspective & building good feeling momentum!

You get to feel good!

You get to choose your perspective!

You get to start now!

What Percentage Are You Aligned With Your Desire?

Do you have a desire that you want to create/manifest/live? Want to find out how aligned you are with it and how many things are contradicting it that need to be released and re-aligned? Click below and fill out the form to receive your complimentary Energy Alignment Assessment.
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Inputs Matter

What Are You Feeding Your Mind?

By Bonnie Durkin - 10/10/25

By Bonnie Durkin - 10/10/25

Author, Speaker, Energy Alignment Practitioner & Personal Empowerment Coach

“Stand guard at the doorway of your mind, letting in only what you wish to manifest.”Ralph Waldo Emerson

Have you ever noticed how certain things you read, watch, or listen to can instantly change how you feel?

Maybe you scroll through the news or social media and suddenly your heart feels heavier, your chest tightens, and your mood drops — even though nothing in your life actually changed in that moment.

That’s because your nervous system reacts to the information you take in.

Your body can’t tell the difference between something that’s really happening and something you’re simply thinking about or witnessing.

Every image, headline, sound, and story you absorb sends a message to your body that says either “I’m safe” or “I’m not.”

And when your body perceives danger — even imagined danger — your stress response flips on.

Your breath shortens. Your heart rate increases. Your muscles tighten.

But the truth is, you have more control than you think.

You get to choose your inputs.


Stress Isn’t Caused by What’s Happening — It’s Caused by What You’re Thinking About It

Most of the stress we experience doesn’t actually come from the events themselves — it comes from the story we tell ourselves about those events.

Two people can go through the exact same situation and have totally different reactions.
One might stay calm and open; the other might spiral into fear and frustration.

The difference isn’t the circumstance — it’s the thought pattern.

Your thoughts are powerful.

They affect your body, your mood, your energy, and even your immune system.

When your thoughts are filled with worry, criticism, or fear, your nervous system stays on high alert.

But when you focus on appreciation, peace, and possibility, your whole body relaxes.


The Power of Inputs

We all have a “mental diet” — and just like food, some inputs nourish us while others deplete us.

What you feed your mind influences how you feel, how you think, and how you show up in your life.

When you consume positive, uplifting, and encouraging content, your body relaxes, your vibration rises, and your outlook expands.

When you consume negativity, drama, or fear-based messages, your body produces stress hormones and your energy contracts.

It’s not just what you think — it’s what you feed your thinking with.


Your 30-Day Input Experiment

For the next 30 days, try becoming more intentional about what you allow into your mind.
Before you read, watch, scroll, or listen, pause and ask yourself:

  • Will this make me feel better or worse?
  • Is this something I want more of in my life?
  • Does this move me forward or hold me back?
  • Will this calm my body and mind — or activate stress in me?

Each of these questions creates a small but powerful pause — a moment of awareness where you get to choose your focus. And that pause is where your power lives.

The more you feed your mind with peaceful, positive, and empowering inputs, the more you strengthen your body’s sense of safety and stability.

And as your body feels safe, your thoughts naturally become lighter and more optimistic.

It’s a beautiful cycle — one small choice at a time.


Your Challenge This Week

Start paying attention to your “mental diet.”Notice how certain songs, shows, social feeds, or conversations make you feel.
Do they energize you or drain you? Calm you or agitate you?

Then start curating what you allow in. Follow accounts that lift you up. Listen to music that soothes or inspires you. Spend time in quiet instead of constant noise. Read something that fills your spirit instead of your fears.

You’ll be amazed at how quickly your mood — and your body — begins to shift when you guard the doorway of your mind.


Invitation: Join Me for the Flip the Switch 30-Day Journey

If this message resonates with you and you’re ready to take this concept deeper, I’d love to invite you to join me for my new program: Flip the Switch – A 30-Day Journey: Calm Your Nervous System, Shift Your Perspective & Raise Your Mood.

With warmth & appreciation!
Bonnie

For 30 days, you’ll receive:

✨ Daily emails with uplifting lessons and simple tools
✨ A printable tracker and beginning/ending assessments
✨ A private Facebook community for encouragement and support
✨ A copy of the paperback book when it’s published

We start Monday, October 20th, and I’d love for you to be part of this first group.

It’s just $30 (that’s $1 a day!) to join.

For more information or to join now, click the button bellow!

What Percentage Are You Aligned With Your Desire?

Do you have a desire that you want to create/manifest/live? Want to find out how aligned you are with it and how many things are contradicting it that need to be released and re-aligned? Click below and fill out the form to receive your complimentary Energy Alignment Assessment.
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Quick Stress Reset

By Bonnie Durkin - 9/25/25

By Bonnie Durkin - 9/25/25

Author, Speaker, Energy Alignment Practitioner & Personal Empowerment Coach

Your Thoughts, Your Stress, Your Shift: Calming the Nervous System from the Inside Out

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” — William James

We all know what it feels like when stress takes over—your heart races, your chest feels tight, your stomach knots, and your mind just won’t stop spinning. For many of us, that anxious, on-edge state has become more of a default than an exception.

But here’s something you may not realize: it’s not just what’s happening outside of you that triggers stress. It’s also what’s happening inside your own mind.

Your thoughts and perceptions—what you “input” into your brain—have a direct effect on your nervous system. And the good news? That means you have more power to shift how you feel than you might think.


How Thoughts Activate the Stress Response

Your body is wired to keep you safe. When your brain perceives a threat—whether it’s a real emergency or just the thought of one—it activates the sympathetic nervous system (fight, flight, or freeze mode).

That means:

  • Stress hormones like cortisol flood your body
  • Your heart rate and blood pressure increase
  • Your breathing becomes shallow and rapid
  • Muscles tense as your body prepares for danger

This is helpful if you’re actually running from a tiger. But not so helpful if what triggered the response was a thought like:

  • “What if…(this bad thing happens)?”
  • “I can’t handle this.”
  • “This is too much for me.”
  • “Something always goes wrong for me.”
  • “I should’ve know better/done better/done it differently.”

Your body reacts to those stressful thoughts as if they’re real threats. And if you keep repeating them, your nervous system stays stuck in overdrive.


Why Input Matters

Think of your mind like a garden. Whatever you plant—and water—will grow.

  • Fill it with worst-case scenarios, self-criticism, or negative news, and you’ll be fueling anxiety and stress.
  • Nurture it with supportive thoughts, uplifting perspectives, and calming practices, and you’ll be creating the conditions for peace and resilience.

This is why perception matters so much. It’s not just what’s happening—it’s how you interpret what’s happening.

And the best part? You can learn to “flip the switch” by intentionally shifting your focus and calming your nervous system in the moment.


Two Simple Techniques to Calm and Reset

Here are two tools you can use anytime you feel stress rising. They don’t take long, and they work because they signal safety to your brain and body.

1. 5–10 Breathing

This is one of the simplest, most effective ways to calm your system.

  • Inhale gently through your nose for a count of 5.
  • Exhale slowly through your mouth for a count of 10.
  • Repeat for 1–3 minutes.

Why it works: The long exhale activates your parasympathetic nervous system (your “rest and restore” mode), lowering cortisol and telling your body it’s safe.


2. Eye Shift Reset

This quick technique helps reset your nervous system in under a minute.

  • Sit up tall, looking straight ahead.
  • Without moving your head, move your eyes all the way to the left. Hold until you yawn, sigh, or feel a subtle release.
  • Return to center. Then move your eyes all the way to the right. Hold until you feel the shift again.
  • Bring your gaze back to center.

Why it works: This movement stimulates the vagus nerve, which regulates your stress response and helps shift you back into calm.


Try This: A Mini Reset for Today

  1. Notice when your thoughts are spiraling into “what ifs” or worst-case scenarios.
  2. Pause and say to yourself: “This is just a thought—not a fact.”
  3. Take three rounds of 5–10 Breathing.
  4. Do the Eye Shift Reset.
  5. Ask yourself: “What’s one better-feeling thought I can choose right now?”

Stress isn’t just about the circumstances around you. It’s about the story you’re telling yourself about those circumstances.

The more you practice calming your nervous system, the easier it becomes to notice when stress is rising—and to shift it before it takes over.

Remember:

  • Your thoughts are inputs. Choose wisely what you feed your mind.
  • Your body responds to perception. When you shift how you see something, you shift how you feel.
  • Your nervous system listens. A few breaths, a simple eye shift, a pause for a new perspective—all can bring you back to balance.

You get to choose your focus.
You get to flip the switch.
You get to feel better now.

Wishing you a calm & peaceful mind!
Bonnie

The "I Get To Shift!" 7-Day Challenge - experience the power of a mindset shift in just one week! Take our FREE 7-Day Challenge and see how your Perspective & Mood start elevating and transforming with simple daily shifts!

Ready to change your perspective and feel lighter, happier, and more empowered in just 7 days?

What if three simple words could change how you feel… and how you live? “I GET TO…”

I Get To Shift! – 7 Day Challenge 
A gift to help you kick off summer in a higher vibe.

Every day for 7 days, you’ll learn how to shift from “I have to” ➝ “I get to”
…and watch how your mood, energy, and outlook on life transform.

You’ll get:

  • Daily mindset shifts
  • A beautiful printable workbook
  • Simple practices that uplift your emotions + attract more good
  • A deeper connection to gratitude and possibility

Science shows that just 7 days of consistent practice can actually begin to rewire your brain.

How? It all comes down to neuroplasticity—your brain’s incredible ability to change and adapt. Every time you choose a new thought, reaction, or way of seeing something, you’re creating new neural pathways. And when you do that over several days, those pathways strengthen—making it easier to think differently, feel better, and act with more intention.

This challenge is based on the most-loved concept from my book The Appreciation Game: A 30-Day Process to Increase Happiness, Satisfaction & Well-Being. Day Nine – I Get To… This process is the one so many people told me was their favorite and even life-changing. And this 7-Day Challenge is also a sneak peek into my next book, which is all about how shifting your perception changes your life.

I hope you’ll join in this fun experiment in changing perspective & building good feeling momentum!

You get to feel good!

You get to choose your perspective!

You get to start now!

What Percentage Are You Aligned With Your Desire?

Do you have a desire that you want to create/manifest/live? Want to find out how aligned you are with it and how many things are contradicting it that need to be released and re-aligned? Click below and fill out the form to receive your complimentary Energy Alignment Assessment.
Weekly tips, tools, & processes to help you feel better and live the life of your dreams!

Inputs Matter

What Are You Feeding Your Mind? “Stand guard at the doorway of your mind, letting in only what you wish to manifest.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson Have you

Read More »

Quick Stress Reset

Your Thoughts, Your Stress, Your Shift: Calming the Nervous System from the Inside Out “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

Read More »

Closing the Gap

Closing the Gap: Becoming a Vibrational Match to What You Want Have you ever noticed the gap—the space between where you are right now and where you really want

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Walking Increases Mood

By Bonnie Durkin - 9/18/25

By Bonnie Durkin - 9/18/25

Author, Speaker, Energy Alignment Practitioner & Personal Empowerment Coach

Walking Your Way to a Better Mood

We often think of walking as just a form of exercise, but it’s so much more than that. Walking is not only good for your physical health—it’s a powerful tool for boosting your mood, calming your mind, and lifting your spirit. And the best part? It’s easy, free, and available to you anytime, anywhere.

The Science of Walking and Mood

Research shows that walking can be just as effective as medication when it comes to treating mild to moderate depression and anxiety. Movement changes brain chemistry, helping release endorphins (your natural “feel-good” chemicals) and reducing stress hormones like cortisol. Walking also helps regulate serotonin and dopamine—two neurotransmitters essential for mood balance.

As the saying goes: “Move a muscle, change a thought.”
When you shift your body, you shift your mind. Even a short walk can help move you out of worry, overthinking, or low mood and bring you back into a calmer, clearer state.

Why Walking Works So Well

Walking calms the nervous system in a way that few other activities do. Here’s why:

  • Bi-lateral movement – the rhythmic left-right pattern of walking engages both sides of the brain, helping you process emotions and restore balance.
  • Fresh air & natural light – spending time outdoors boosts vitamin D, improves sleep quality, and resets your circadian rhythm. These all directly affect mood and energy levels.
  • Stress release – the simple act of moving forward physically helps your brain register that you’re moving forward emotionally, too.
The Physical Benefits

Of course, walking also supports your physical health in countless ways:

  • Improves cardiovascular health
  • Strengthens muscles and bones
  • Supports weight management
  • Reduces risk of chronic illness
  • Boosts energy and stamina

When your body feels better, your mind and emotions follow.

My Walking Practice: Affirmations in Motion

I love to take walks! It’s one of my favorite things to do, and lately I’ve been experimenting with adding positive affirmations to my walking. Here’s what I do: as I walk, I say out loud (or in my mind if others are around),

“With every step I take…” and then I fill in the blank with something I want to increase or focus on more in my life.

For example:

  • With every step I take I’m getting stronger.
  • With every step I take I’m feeling better.
  • With every step I take I’m getting fitter.
  • With every step I take I’m feeling happier & happier.
  • With every step I take I’m moving closer to my dreams.

I just say whatever pops into my mind, mixing it up depending on what feels good and uplifting. Once I get rolling, it really feels amazing—and by the time I finish my walk, I’m flying high!

Since I started doing this, I’ve noticed I feel happier, more hopeful, and empowered throughout the day. It’s such a simple way to shift your mood and raise your energy.

Give It a Try

The next time you head out for a walk, remember that it’s not just exercise. It’s medicine for your mind, food for your soul, and fuel for your dreams. Try adding in affirmations, and see how your steps can carry you to a higher vibration and a brighter mood.

Wishing you a wonderful, uplifting walk today!
Bonnie

The "I Get To Shift!" 7-Day Challenge - experience the power of a mindset shift in just one week! Take our FREE 7-Day Challenge and see how your Perspective & Mood start elevating and transforming with simple daily shifts!

Ready to change your perspective and feel lighter, happier, and more empowered in just 7 days?

What if three simple words could change how you feel… and how you live? “I GET TO…”

I Get To Shift! – 7 Day Challenge 
A gift to help you kick off summer in a higher vibe.

Every day for 7 days, you’ll learn how to shift from “I have to” ➝ “I get to”
…and watch how your mood, energy, and outlook on life transform.

You’ll get:

  • Daily mindset shifts
  • A beautiful printable workbook
  • Simple practices that uplift your emotions + attract more good
  • A deeper connection to gratitude and possibility

Science shows that just 7 days of consistent practice can actually begin to rewire your brain.

How? It all comes down to neuroplasticity—your brain’s incredible ability to change and adapt. Every time you choose a new thought, reaction, or way of seeing something, you’re creating new neural pathways. And when you do that over several days, those pathways strengthen—making it easier to think differently, feel better, and act with more intention.

This challenge is based on the most-loved concept from my book The Appreciation Game: A 30-Day Process to Increase Happiness, Satisfaction & Well-Being. Day Nine – I Get To… This process is the one so many people told me was their favorite and even life-changing. And this 7-Day Challenge is also a sneak peek into my next book, which is all about how shifting your perception changes your life.

I hope you’ll join in this fun experiment in changing perspective & building good feeling momentum!

You get to feel good!

You get to choose your perspective!

You get to start now!

What Percentage Are You Aligned With Your Desire?

Do you have a desire that you want to create/manifest/live? Want to find out how aligned you are with it and how many things are contradicting it that need to be released and re-aligned? Click below and fill out the form to receive your complimentary Energy Alignment Assessment.
Weekly tips, tools, & processes to help you feel better and live the life of your dreams!

Inputs Matter

What Are You Feeding Your Mind? “Stand guard at the doorway of your mind, letting in only what you wish to manifest.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson Have you

Read More »

Quick Stress Reset

Your Thoughts, Your Stress, Your Shift: Calming the Nervous System from the Inside Out “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

Read More »

Closing the Gap

Closing the Gap: Becoming a Vibrational Match to What You Want Have you ever noticed the gap—the space between where you are right now and where you really want

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Every Subject Has Two Sides

By Bonnie Durkin - 8/29/25

By Bonnie Durkin - 8/29/25

Author, Speaker, Energy Alignment Practitioner & Personal Empowerment Coach

Every Subject Has Two Sides: Which One Are You Practicing?

Last week, we talked about Closing the Gap—that space between where you are right now and where you want to be. We explored how to become a vibrational match to your desires by aligning your emotions and energy with what you want, instead of what you don’t.

This week, I want to take that idea a little deeper.

Because here’s the truth: every subject has two sides.

  • On one side is what you want.
  • On the other side is what you don’t want.

And every time that subject comes up in your mind, you’re activating one side or the other.

Two Sides of the Same Coin

Let’s take money, for example:

  • On one side is abundance, prosperity, ease, and security.
  • On the other is scarcity, lack, and fear of not having enough.

Or relationships:

  • On one side is love, connection, joy, and appreciation.
  • On the other is conflict, frustration, or loneliness.

Or your body:

  • On one side is health, vitality, and strength.
  • On the other is exhaustion, self-criticism, or illness.

The subject is the same. What changes is which side you practice activating.

What You Practice, You Strengthen

Most of us unintentionally practice the don’t want side of our subjects without realizing it. We complain about bills, replay arguments, or criticize ourselves in the mirror.

Each time we do, we’re strengthening neural pathways in the brain and reinforcing vibrational patterns that line us up with more of the same.

But here’s the good news: you can shift sides.

When you start deliberately practicing thoughts and feelings that line up with what you do want, you rewire both your brain and your energy. Over time, it becomes easier and more natural to lean into the “want” side of your subjects—and your reality begins to reflect that.

The Emotional Guidance System

Your emotions are always telling you which side you’re on.

  • If you feel stressed, anxious, or heavy when you think about a subject—you’re tuned to the “don’t want” side.
  • If you feel lighter, hopeful, or inspired—you’re tuned to the “want” side.

Your job isn’t to jump from one extreme to the other overnight. It’s to gently notice where you’re placing your focus and shift toward the side that feels even a little bit better.

A Simple Practice: Catch and Pivot

This week, try this exercise:

  1. Notice a Trigger Subject. Pick something that often pulls you into negative emotion—money, health, work, or a relationship.
  2. Catch Yourself. When it comes up, pause and ask: Which side am I activating right now—the want or the don’t want?
  3. Pivot Gently. Shift your thoughts by asking: What do I want instead? or How do I want to feel about this subject?
  4. Stay General. Keep your focus light and broad. Instead of specifics (which can trigger resistance), use general statements like:
    • I want this subject to feel easier.
    • I want to feel supported.
    • I’d love for this to start improving.

Over time, this simple practice helps you strengthen the neural pathways and vibrational patterns that align you with what you desire.

Final Thoughts

Every subject has two sides. Which side you practice determines the life you live.

The gap between where you are and where you want to be is simply a matter of which side you’re tuning into, moment by moment.

When you start consistently activating the “want” side—through your thoughts, feelings, and expectations—you close the gap, step into alignment, and allow your dreams to meet you.

✨ And if you’re ready to go deeper into this work, join me for my upcoming free workshop: Close the Gap Between You & Your Dreams. Together, we’ll explore how to shift your mindset, align your energy, and step into the life you’ve been dreaming of.

Happy Choosing!
Bonnie

Wednesday, September 3rd. - 7pm eastern

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Are you tired of wanting change but not seeing results?

Ready to break old patterns and finally become a match to your deepest desires?

This free class will show you how to shift from contradiction and struggle into alignment and flow—so you can attract the wealth, health, love, and freedom you’ve been craving.

In this free class, you’ll learn how to:

  • Identify the contradictions in your energy that keep you stuck
  • Break the habit of being your “old self” and step into who you’re becoming
  • Align your emotions with what you want (so you can finally receive it)
  • Understand why your mood is your magnet and how to use it intentionally
  • Practice a simple exercise to start closing the gap immediately

Are you ready to stop waiting and start aligning?
Your dreams aren’t far away—they’re waiting for you to become a vibrational match!

Space is Limited!
Register today to reserve your spot and take the first step toward closing the gap between you and your dreams.

The "I Get To Shift!" 7-Day Challenge - experience the power of a mindset shift in just one week! Take our FREE 7-Day Challenge and see how your Perspective & Mood start elevating and transforming with simple daily shifts!

Ready to change your perspective and feel lighter, happier, and more empowered in just 7 days?

What if three simple words could change how you feel… and how you live? “I GET TO…”

I Get To Shift! – 7 Day Challenge 
A gift to help you kick off summer in a higher vibe.

Every day for 7 days, you’ll learn how to shift from “I have to” ➝ “I get to”
…and watch how your mood, energy, and outlook on life transform.

You’ll get:

  • Daily mindset shifts
  • A beautiful printable workbook
  • Simple practices that uplift your emotions + attract more good
  • A deeper connection to gratitude and possibility

Science shows that just 7 days of consistent practice can actually begin to rewire your brain.

How? It all comes down to neuroplasticity—your brain’s incredible ability to change and adapt. Every time you choose a new thought, reaction, or way of seeing something, you’re creating new neural pathways. And when you do that over several days, those pathways strengthen—making it easier to think differently, feel better, and act with more intention.

This challenge is based on the most-loved concept from my book The Appreciation Game: A 30-Day Process to Increase Happiness, Satisfaction & Well-Being. Day Nine – I Get To… This process is the one so many people told me was their favorite and even life-changing. And this 7-Day Challenge is also a sneak peek into my next book, which is all about how shifting your perception changes your life.

I hope you’ll join in this fun experiment in changing perspective & building good feeling momentum!

You get to feel good!

You get to choose your perspective!

You get to start now!

What Percentage Are You Aligned With Your Desire?

Do you have a desire that you want to create/manifest/live? Want to find out how aligned you are with it and how many things are contradicting it that need to be released and re-aligned? Click below and fill out the form to receive your complimentary Energy Alignment Assessment.
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Closing the Gap

By Bonnie Durkin -8/21/25

By Bonnie Durkin -8/21/25

Author, Speaker, Energy Alignment Practitioner & Personal Empowerment Coach

Closing the Gap: Becoming a Vibrational Match to What You Want

Have you ever noticed the gap—the space between where you are right now and where you really want to be?

Maybe it’s more money, better health, a loving relationship, or a career that lights you up. You can see it in your mind. You know what you want. But somehow, it feels just out of reach.

Here’s the key: if you’re not yet living what you desire, it doesn’t mean you can’t have it. It means there are contradictions in your energy and emotions that don’t match what you want.

You Can’t Be Rich if You Feel Poor

Think of it this way — you can’t create wealth while feeling broke. You can’t attract love while feeling unworthy. You can’t step into vibrant health while expecting to stay sick.

You can’t be fit and healthy if you feel fat.
You can’t be happy if all your attention is on what’s wrong.
You can’t feel loved if you’re always expecting rejection.
You can’t live in abundance while constantly telling yourself there’s “never enough.”

Your emotions are like a signal you’re broadcasting out into the universe. If you’re tuned to fear, lack, or doubt, you’ll keep pulling in experiences that match those feelings.

This is why your emotions matter so much. They’re not random—they’re showing you whether you’re lined up with what you want or whether you’re pushing it away without even realizing it.

Break the Habit of Being Yourself

Here’s the tough but liberating truth: you can’t stay the same person and have a different life.

If you want things to change, you must change first.
That means shifting your thoughts, your feelings, your expectations, and the story you’re telling yourself about what’s possible.

As Dr. Joe Dispenza says, you have to “break the habit of being yourself.” The self you are right now has created the results you currently see. If you want different results, you need to create a new self who thinks, feels, and believes differently.

The Good News

This isn’t about pretending or forcing fake positivity. It’s about gently shifting your energy, one thought and one feeling at a time, until you begin to embody the version of you who already has what you desire.

When you feel the way you would feel if your dream were already real, you close the gap. You become a vibrational match, and the universe has no choice but to line up circumstances that reflect your new energy.

Try This Simple Exercise

Pick one desire you’d love to experience—a financial breakthrough, a new relationship, vibrant health, or something else close to your heart.

Ask yourself: “If this was already true for me, how would I feel?” Secure? Excited? Free? Loved? Healthy?

Write down 3–5 feelings that come up.

Practice feeling those emotions now. Even if it’s just for a few moments, breathe them in and imagine what it’s like to live as if it’s already here.

The more you practice aligning with the emotions of what you want, the smaller the gap becomes—until one day, you realize you’re living the life you once only dreamed about.

✨ So, what’s your gap? And more importantly, are you ready to close it by becoming a vibrational match to what you desire?

Sending you love & light!
Bonnie

Wednesday, September 3rd. - 7pm eastern

Do you feel like there’s a gap between where you are right now and where you want to be?

Are you tired of wanting change but not seeing results?

Ready to break old patterns and finally become a match to your deepest desires?

This free class will show you how to shift from contradiction and struggle into alignment and flow—so you can attract the wealth, health, love, and freedom you’ve been craving.

In this free class, you’ll learn how to:

  • Identify the contradictions in your energy that keep you stuck
  • Break the habit of being your “old self” and step into who you’re becoming
  • Align your emotions with what you want (so you can finally receive it)
  • Understand why your mood is your magnet and how to use it intentionally
  • Practice a simple exercise to start closing the gap immediately

Are you ready to stop waiting and start aligning?
Your dreams aren’t far away—they’re waiting for you to become a vibrational match!

Space is Limited!
Register today to reserve your spot and take the first step toward closing the gap between you and your dreams.

The "I Get To Shift!" 7-Day Challenge - experience the power of a mindset shift in just one week! Take our FREE 7-Day Challenge and see how your Perspective & Mood start elevating and transforming with simple daily shifts!

Ready to change your perspective and feel lighter, happier, and more empowered in just 7 days?

What if three simple words could change how you feel… and how you live? “I GET TO…”

I Get To Shift! – 7 Day Challenge 
A gift to help you kick off summer in a higher vibe.

Every day for 7 days, you’ll learn how to shift from “I have to” ➝ “I get to”
…and watch how your mood, energy, and outlook on life transform.

You’ll get:

  • Daily mindset shifts
  • A beautiful printable workbook
  • Simple practices that uplift your emotions + attract more good
  • A deeper connection to gratitude and possibility

Science shows that just 7 days of consistent practice can actually begin to rewire your brain.

How? It all comes down to neuroplasticity—your brain’s incredible ability to change and adapt. Every time you choose a new thought, reaction, or way of seeing something, you’re creating new neural pathways. And when you do that over several days, those pathways strengthen—making it easier to think differently, feel better, and act with more intention.

This challenge is based on the most-loved concept from my book The Appreciation Game: A 30-Day Process to Increase Happiness, Satisfaction & Well-Being. Day Nine – I Get To… This process is the one so many people told me was their favorite and even life-changing. And this 7-Day Challenge is also a sneak peek into my next book, which is all about how shifting your perception changes your life.

I hope you’ll join in this fun experiment in changing perspective & building good feeling momentum!

You get to feel good!

You get to choose your perspective!

You get to start now!

What Percentage Are You Aligned With Your Desire?

Do you have a desire that you want to create/manifest/live? Want to find out how aligned you are with it and how many things are contradicting it that need to be released and re-aligned? Click below and fill out the form to receive your complimentary Energy Alignment Assessment.
Weekly tips, tools, & processes to help you feel better and live the life of your dreams!

Inputs Matter

What Are You Feeding Your Mind? “Stand guard at the doorway of your mind, letting in only what you wish to manifest.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson Have you

Read More »

Quick Stress Reset

Your Thoughts, Your Stress, Your Shift: Calming the Nervous System from the Inside Out “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

Read More »

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Closing the Gap: Becoming a Vibrational Match to What You Want Have you ever noticed the gap—the space between where you are right now and where you really want

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Flip the Script on Stress

By Bonnie Durkin -8/6/25

By Bonnie Durkin -8/6/25

Author, Speaker, Energy Alignment Practitioner & Personal Empowerment Coach

Flipping the Script on Stuff That Stresses You Out

 We all have certain subjects in our lives that trigger stress, worry, or fear the moment we think about them. These “bad feeling” topics vary from person to person, but for many people they include things like money, health, relationships, career, or body image. Maybe you have one, or a few, that come to mind right away. The problem is, when a subject consistently feels heavy or negative, it tends to spiral quickly. You start thinking about it, and before long you’re knee-deep in a cascade of worst-case scenarios. But here’s the good news: you can shift how you feel about any subject. And when you shift the way you feel, you change what you attract. In this post, you’ll learn how to gently pivot a negative topic using a process that blends emotional awareness, vibrational tuning, and light-hearted imagination. Let’s start by understanding one simple but powerful truth:

Every Subject Is Two Subjects

Every topic has two vibrational sides: What you want What you don’t want Take money, for example: On one side, there’s prosperity: more than enough, ease, abundance. On the other, there’s scarcity: not enough, fear, debt, pressure. The emotional charge you carry around a subject tells you which side you’re currently tuned to. And because of the Law of Attraction, whatever you focus on—and feel emotionally—is what gets reflected back to you. Your emotions are your built-in guidance system. When a topic triggers frustration, anxiety, or fear, it means your thoughts about it are out of alignment with what you want. So, how do you shift that?

Why Positive Thinking Doesn’t Always Work

If you’ve tried repeating affirmations or practicing “positive thinking,” you may have noticed that saying something like “I am financially free!” doesn’t always feel great—especially when your reality says otherwise. That’s because your words are only part of the equation. If what you’re saying doesn’t feel true, your emotional vibration contradicts it. To shift a subject effectively, you have to find thoughts that actually feel better. Thoughts that evoke even a small sense of relief or hope are the stepping stones toward creating new, more supportive beliefs.

An Example: The Negative Money Spiral

Let’s say your refrigerator breaks, and you immediately go into panic mode:
“I can’t believe this happened. We can’t afford to replace it. We’re already behind on bills. What if we lose the house? What if someone gets sick and we can’t pay for it?”
This is what I call the negative ‘what if’ spiral. Your mind is spinning out worst-case scenarios faster than you can catch them. And every “what if” drags your energy lower. But what if you caught yourself mid-spiral and said: “Wait, stop. I don’t want this.” Then ask yourself: What do I want? Maybe your answer is: “I want to feel secure and supported financially. I want to have more than enough money to pay for what we need.” That’s a great start. From there, you begin to gently explore the feeling of what you want, without jumping into specifics or trying to “make it happen.” Here’s how.

Step 1: Get General and Gentle

Ask yourself: How do I want to feel about this subject? In the case of money, you might say: I want to feel ease. I want to feel supported. I want money to feel light and fun. I want to feel like money is a friend, not a stressor. Keep your statements general and emotional, not logistical. Why? Because specifics often trigger resistance or doubt, while gentle emotional focus creates space for alignment.

Step 2: Play the “Wouldn’t It Be Nice If…” Game

Once you’re feeling a little better, you can start to play with more possibility using this powerful phrase: “Wouldn’t it be nice if…” This phrase helps you reach for better-feeling thoughts without pressure or attachment. It’s soft, curious, and full of potential. Try it: Wouldn’t it be nice if some unexpected money showed up? Wouldn’t it be nice if we found a great deal on a new fridge? Wouldn’t it be nice if I felt calm and confident about money? Wouldn’t it be nice if my income started to grow effortlessly? Notice how these thoughts feel lighter. You’re not forcing anything. You’re opening the door.

Step 3: Use This Process on Any Topic

This isn’t just about money. You can use this process to shift your energy around any topic: A difficult relationship Body image Health challenges Work stress Just follow the same path: Notice when you’re spiraling. Pause and ask, What do I want instead? Feel your way into better-feeling general statements. Use “Wouldn’t it be nice if…” to gently open new possibilities.

Experiential Exercise: Your Shift Script

Try this short practice today: Pick one subject in your life that often feels negative or heavy. Write a list of the thoughts you usually think about it (no judgment). Now, ask yourself: What do I want instead? Write 3-5 general emotional statements about how you want to feel. Add 3-5 “Wouldn’t it be nice if…” statements to build positive momentum. Keep this list nearby. Read it aloud when the subject comes up. Let yourself begin to rewire the emotional charge.
If your mind is always thinking something, why not choose thoughts that feel better? Instead of scaring yourself with worst-case “what ifs,” start delighting and inspiring yourself with hopeful “wouldn’t it be nice” scenarios. You don’t have to fake positivity or pretend everything is perfect. Just reach for a little more ease. A little more possibility. A little more peace. Because the better you feel, the better your life begins to flow. You get to shift. You get to feel better now. You get to create a new story. With lightness and love, Bonnie
The "I Get To Shift!" 7-Day Challenge - experience the power of a mindset shift in just one week! Take our FREE 7-Day Challenge and see how your Perspective & Mood start elevating and transforming with simple daily shifts!

Ready to change your perspective and feel lighter, happier, and more empowered in just 7 days?

What if three simple words could change how you feel… and how you live? “I GET TO…”

I Get To Shift! – 7 Day Challenge 
A gift to help you kick off summer in a higher vibe.

Every day for 7 days, you’ll learn how to shift from “I have to” ➝ “I get to”
…and watch how your mood, energy, and outlook on life transform.

You’ll get:

  • Daily mindset shifts
  • A beautiful printable workbook
  • Simple practices that uplift your emotions + attract more good
  • A deeper connection to gratitude and possibility

Science shows that just 7 days of consistent practice can actually begin to rewire your brain.

How? It all comes down to neuroplasticity—your brain’s incredible ability to change and adapt. Every time you choose a new thought, reaction, or way of seeing something, you’re creating new neural pathways. And when you do that over several days, those pathways strengthen—making it easier to think differently, feel better, and act with more intention.

This challenge is based on the most-loved concept from my book The Appreciation Game: A 30-Day Process to Increase Happiness, Satisfaction & Well-Being. Day Nine – I Get To… This process is the one so many people told me was their favorite and even life-changing. And this 7-Day Challenge is also a sneak peek into my next book, which is all about how shifting your perception changes your life.

I hope you’ll join in this fun experiment in changing perspective & building good feeling momentum!

You get to feel good!

You get to choose your perspective!

You get to start now!

What Percentage Are You Aligned With Your Desire?

Do you have a desire that you want to create/manifest/live? Want to find out how aligned you are with it and how many things are contradicting it that need to be released and re-aligned? Click below and fill out the form to receive your complimentary Energy Alignment Assessment.
Weekly tips, tools, & processes to help you feel better and live the life of your dreams!

Inputs Matter

What Are You Feeding Your Mind? “Stand guard at the doorway of your mind, letting in only what you wish to manifest.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson Have you

Read More »

Quick Stress Reset

Your Thoughts, Your Stress, Your Shift: Calming the Nervous System from the Inside Out “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

Read More »

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The Power of Expectation

By Bonnie Durkin -7/25/25

By Bonnie Durkin -7/25/25

Author, Speaker, Energy Alignment Practitioner & Personal Empowerment Coach

The Power of Expectation: What Are You Looking For?

We all know how it feels to walk into a situation with dread, already bracing for the worst—and then, not surprisingly, things go sideways. But what if the opposite were also true? What if your expectations actually shape the experiences you have?

Spoiler alert: They do.

In this post, we’ll explore the power of expectation, how it colors your reality, and how to start using it intentionally to create more positive outcomes. You’ll even try a simple exercise to shift your expectations and watch what happens.


What Does It Mean to Expect?

The word expect is defined as: to regard something as likely to happen.

Your expectations are like mental previews. They quietly broadcast your beliefs about what’s coming next. And they influence your mood, your actions, your energy—and ultimately, your outcomes.

You get what you expect, whether you want it or not.

Think about it:

  • Do you expect that things usually go well for you?
  • Or do you brace for disappointment?
  • Do you enter new situations with openness, or are you waiting for the other shoe to drop?

Whether you realize it or not, you are constantly broadcasting expectations—and life is responding in kind.


The World Is Your Mirror

Albert Einstein famously said, “The most important question you can ever ask is: Is the world a friendly place?

He believed your answer to that question would shape everything—your mindset, your behavior, your reactions, and your experience of life itself.

If you believe the world is a friendly place, you expect kindness, connection, support. You interpret neutral events more positively. You notice opportunities. You smile first. And more often than not, the world smiles back.

If you believe the world is unfriendly, you expect trouble. You scan for threats. You close off. And you often get back exactly what you were anticipating.

Your expectations filter your reality. That’s why changing what you expect can change what you experience.


A Tale of Two Dogs

Here’s a Japanese folktale that illustrates this beautifully:

Long ago in a small village, there was a place called the House of 1000 Mirrors.

A small, happy little dog learned of this place and decided to visit. When he arrived, he bounced happily up the stairs and looked through the doorway, tail wagging.

To his great surprise, he saw 1000 other happy little dogs wagging their tails and smiling at him. He left thinking, “What a wonderful place! I’ll come back often.”

In the same village, another little dog, not so cheerful, also visited. He climbed the stairs slowly and looked in with a low-hanging head and a growl.

Inside, he saw 1000 unfriendly dogs growling back at him. He left thinking, “That place is horrible. I’m never going back.”

What changed? Not the house. Just the expectation.

This story is a beautiful reminder: the energy you bring is the energy you get back.


What Are You Expecting?

Most of us are taught to be cautious, to “be realistic,” or to prepare for disappointment. As children, we often had to justify our needs and wants by focusing on what wasn’t working or what we were lacking.

This early conditioning can lead us to expect problems instead of blessings, to imagine worst-case scenarios instead of best outcomes.

But here’s the truth:

  • If you expect joy, you start to notice joyful things.
  • If you expect ease, you begin to soften and attract more flow.
  • If you expect people to be kind, you bring out their kindness.

Your mood is your magnet, and your expectations are the blueprint.


A Simple Exercise: Expectation Experiment

Want to see this in action? Try this short experiment today.

Step 1: Choose a New Expectation
Pick one situation you’ll be walking into today—a conversation, a chore, a commute, a work task. Then set a conscious expectation like:

  • “I expect this to go smoothly.”
  • “I expect to feel supported.”
  • “I expect a pleasant surprise.”

Step 2: Carry the Energy
As you move into the situation, bring that expectation with you like a quiet internal smile. Breathe it in. Embody it.

Step 3: Reflect
Afterward, take a moment to journal or reflect: What happened? How did your mood and energy shift the experience?

The more you do this, the more you’ll realize your expectations are a powerful self-fulfilling prophecy.

Start Expecting More

You don’t have to fake positivity or deny challenges. You just need to start looking for what you want to see.

  • Start expecting to be blessed.
  • Start expecting that things will work out.
  • Start expecting beauty, connection, and magic.

Your expectations are not naive. They are creative.

What you look for, you find.
What you expect, you experience.

So ask yourself:

What am I expecting right now?

And if you don’t like the answer, change it.

Because your next moment is forming itself around your expectation.

With positive expectation for a lovely day today!
Bonnie

The "I Get To Shift!" 7-Day Challenge - experience the power of a mindset shift in just one week! Take our FREE 7-Day Challenge and see how your Perspective & Mood start elevating and transforming with simple daily shifts!

Ready to change your perspective and feel lighter, happier, and more empowered in just 7 days?

What if three simple words could change how you feel… and how you live? “I GET TO…”

I Get To Shift! – 7 Day Challenge 
A gift to help you kick off summer in a higher vibe.

Every day for 7 days, you’ll learn how to shift from “I have to” ➝ “I get to”
…and watch how your mood, energy, and outlook on life transform.

You’ll get:

  • Daily mindset shifts
  • A beautiful printable workbook
  • Simple practices that uplift your emotions + attract more good
  • A deeper connection to gratitude and possibility

Science shows that just 7 days of consistent practice can actually begin to rewire your brain.

How? It all comes down to neuroplasticity—your brain’s incredible ability to change and adapt. Every time you choose a new thought, reaction, or way of seeing something, you’re creating new neural pathways. And when you do that over several days, those pathways strengthen—making it easier to think differently, feel better, and act with more intention.

This challenge is based on the most-loved concept from my book The Appreciation Game: A 30-Day Process to Increase Happiness, Satisfaction & Well-Being. Day Nine – I Get To… This process is the one so many people told me was their favorite and even life-changing. And this 7-Day Challenge is also a sneak peek into my next book, which is all about how shifting your perception changes your life.

I hope you’ll join in this fun experiment in changing perspective & building good feeling momentum!

You get to feel good!

You get to choose your perspective!

You get to start now!

What Percentage Are You Aligned With Your Desire?

Do you have a desire that you want to create/manifest/live? Want to find out how aligned you are with it and how many things are contradicting it that need to be released and re-aligned? Click below and fill out the form to receive your complimentary Energy Alignment Assessment.
Weekly tips, tools, & processes to help you feel better and live the life of your dreams!

Inputs Matter

What Are You Feeding Your Mind? “Stand guard at the doorway of your mind, letting in only what you wish to manifest.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson Have you

Read More »

Quick Stress Reset

Your Thoughts, Your Stress, Your Shift: Calming the Nervous System from the Inside Out “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

Read More »

Closing the Gap

Closing the Gap: Becoming a Vibrational Match to What You Want Have you ever noticed the gap—the space between where you are right now and where you really want

Read More »
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The Power of Grounding or Earthing

By Bonnie Durkin -7/11/25

By Bonnie Durkin -7/11/25

Author, Speaker, Energy Alignment Practitioner & Personal Empowerment Coach

The Healing Power of Bare Feet: Why Grounding Matters

One of my very favorite parts of summer is going barefoot. I’ve loved being barefoot ever since I was a child. I have so many happy memories of running through the grass, digging my toes into the sand at the beach, and sitting on the side of the tub at night while my mom washed our feet after long, barefoot days of summer play.

As I write this blog post, I’m sitting under a tree in my yard with my bare feet resting on the grass. The sun is shining, the birds are singing, and I feel deeply peaceful. It’s in moments like these that I remember: this is my Summer of Savoring.

For me, summer brings a sense of freedom—freedom to follow my own inner rhythm, to soak in the sunshine, and to be fully present in the natural world around me. This summer, I’m choosing to savor those moments even more deeply. And one of the most powerful ways I do that is through a simple, ancient practice: going barefoot.

You’ve probably felt it too—those magical moments when you’re walking barefoot at the beach, toes in the sand, waves lapping at your ankles, and a warm breeze brushing against your skin. You’re totally relaxed and at peace. Most of us chalk that feeling up to “being on vacation” or just being outdoors. And yes, nature is certainly part of it.

But what you might not know is that walking barefoot is doing something powerful inside your body, too. It’s called Earthing or Grounding, and it’s one of the easiest ways to reset your nervous system, reduce stress, and boost your well-being.


What Is Earthing?

Earthing (also called Grounding) means making direct contact with the Earth’s surface—grass, sand, soil, even unsealed concrete—with your bare skin. It reconnects you to the Earth’s natural electric energy, which is constantly pulsing with negatively charged electrons.

Our ancestors were grounded to the Earth nearly 24/7. They walked barefoot or wore conductive leather-soled shoes. They slept on the ground. But in modern life, we live and work in insulated buildings, and when we do go outside, we’re wearing rubber-soled shoes that block the Earth’s energy.

As a result, many of us are literally disconnected from the Earth. And that disconnection has consequences.


The Science Behind Grounding

You might be wondering—how could going barefoot possibly affect your health?

The answer lies in the fact that your body is electric. Every thought, movement, and heartbeat is driven by electrical impulses. And just like a battery, your body can build up excess positive charge, especially when exposed to EMFs (electromagnetic fields), inflammation, or chronic stress.

The Earth, by contrast, has a natural negative charge, full of free electrons that can help neutralize excess positive ions in your body.

When you walk barefoot on the Earth, those electrons enter your body and act like antioxidants—they help reduce oxidative stress and inflammation, which are at the root of many health issues.


Proven Benefits of Grounding

Research on Earthing is still emerging, but the studies that exist are promising. Some of the benefits people report include:

  • Reduced stress and anxiety

  • Improved sleep

  • Decreased pain and inflammation

  • Faster wound healing

  • Better circulation

  • Lower blood viscosity (which supports heart health)

  • More energy

  • Balanced cortisol levels

  • Improved mood and resilience

One of the most powerful effects of Earthing is its ability to shift the nervous system out of sympathetic (fight-or-flight) mode and into parasympathetic (rest-and-digest) mode. This is the state where healing happens.


Grounding as a Mind-Body Practice

In a world full of stimulation, speed, and disconnection, grounding is a return to simplicity. It’s a reminder that sometimes, the most powerful healing tools are the ones that cost nothing.

When you walk barefoot in the grass, you’re not just absorbing electrons—you’re tuning into your senses. You’re feeling the textures beneath your feet, breathing fresh air, listening to birdsong. You’re dropping out of your head and into your body.

This alone can create a powerful sense of presence and peace.


How to Get Started with Grounding

The good news is, grounding is simple and free.

Here are some easy ways to practice it:

  • Walk barefoot on grass, dirt, sand, or unsealed concrete

  • Sit under a tree with your bare feet in the grass

  • Lie on the ground (picnic-style!) and soak in the Earth’s energy

  • Garden with bare hands in the soil

  • Swim in natural bodies of water like oceans or lakes

Even just 10-20 minutes a day can make a difference—but longer is better. If you can ground yourself in the morning, it’s a wonderful way to start the day with calm and clarity.

And yes—concrete counts, as long as it’s unsealed (like a sidewalk or patio). Just avoid asphalt, which is made from petroleum and is not conductive.


Savoring the Summer Through Grounding

This summer, I’ve made a commitment to savor the little moments—and grounding helps me do just that.

I pause to stand barefoot in my garden while sipping my morning coffee. I sit in the grass under a shady tree when I need a midday reset. I kick off my shoes at the beach and let the waves wash over my feet.

These aren’t just pleasant moments—they’re healing ones. They’re opportunities to slow down, regulate my nervous system, and reconnect with the energy that sustains all life.

So if you’re feeling stressed, scattered, or overwhelmed… Try taking off your shoes. Feel the Earth beneath your feet. Breathe deeply. Let yourself land—fully—in this moment.

Because sometimes, the most powerful shift happens the moment you connect.

With love and barefoot joy,
Bonnie

The "I Get To Shift!" 7-Day Challenge - experience the power of a mindset shift in just one week! Take our FREE 7-Day Challenge and see how your Perspective & Mood start elevating and transforming with simple daily shifts!

Ready to change your perspective and feel lighter, happier, and more empowered in just 7 days?

What if three simple words could change how you feel… and how you live? “I GET TO…”

I Get To Shift! – 7 Day Challenge 
A gift to help you kick off summer in a higher vibe.

Every day for 7 days, you’ll learn how to shift from “I have to” ➝ “I get to”
…and watch how your mood, energy, and outlook on life transform.

You’ll get:

  • Daily mindset shifts
  • A beautiful printable workbook
  • Simple practices that uplift your emotions + attract more good
  • A deeper connection to gratitude and possibility

Science shows that just 7 days of consistent practice can actually begin to rewire your brain.

How? It all comes down to neuroplasticity—your brain’s incredible ability to change and adapt. Every time you choose a new thought, reaction, or way of seeing something, you’re creating new neural pathways. And when you do that over several days, those pathways strengthen—making it easier to think differently, feel better, and act with more intention.

This challenge is based on the most-loved concept from my book The Appreciation Game: A 30-Day Process to Increase Happiness, Satisfaction & Well-Being. Day Nine – I Get To… This process is the one so many people told me was their favorite and even life-changing. And this 7-Day Challenge is also a sneak peek into my next book, which is all about how shifting your perception changes your life.

I hope you’ll join in this fun experiment in changing perspective & building good feeling momentum!

You get to feel good!

You get to choose your perspective!

You get to start now!

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Vitamin G = Gratitude

By Bonnie Durkin -6/29/25

By Bonnie Durkin -6/29/25

Author, Speaker, Energy Alignment Practitioner & Personal Empowerment Coach

The Power of Vitamin G: Why Gratitude is Your Daily Dose of Wellness

 Do you know what the most important vitamin is for your health and well-being? It might not be found in your medicine cabinet or on your dinner plate. It’s Vitamin G—Gratitude.

We’ve all heard that we should be more grateful. But what if gratitude isn’t just a nice idea or something we remember at Thanksgiving? What if it’s actually one of the most powerful wellness tools we have—something that impacts our mindset, our mood, and even our physical health?

In this blog post, we’re talking about Vitamin G—gratitude—and why it’s one of the most potent and accessible ways to feel better, shift your energy, and attract more of what you want.

What is Vitamin G?

Vitamin G is a playful nickname for Gratitude—an essential ingredient for mental, emotional, and energetic health. Just like your body needs vitamins to function at its best, your spirit and nervous system need gratitude to stay balanced, centered, and strong.

Gratitude isn’t about ignoring your challenges or pretending everything’s perfect. It’s about noticing what is working, what is beautiful, what is aligned—right here and now.

Why Gratitude Works (The Science Behind It)

Gratitude isn’t just spiritual fluff—it’s backed by science. Studies have shown that people who practice regular gratitude:

  • Experience less stress and anxiety
  • Sleep better
  • Report higher levels of happiness and optimism
  • Strengthen relationships
  • Have lower levels of inflammation and improved heart health

Why? Because gratitude changes your brain.

When you focus on what you appreciate, your brain releases feel-good chemicals like dopamine and serotonin. These chemicals boost your mood and calm your nervous system. Over time, regularly practicing gratitude can actually rewire your brain to be more resilient, positive, and solution-focused.

Gratitude and the Law of Attraction

From an energetic perspective, gratitude is a powerful attractor. When you feel grateful, you’re sending out the signal: “More of this, please.”

Your mood is your magnet, and gratitude is one of the fastest ways to shift your mood. It helps you tune into a frequency of appreciation, abundance, and receptivity. When you’re focused on what you love, the universe responds by bringing you more things to love.

This is why I always say: Gratitude is the gateway. It opens the door to more joy, more alignment, and more flow.

The “I Get To” Connection

If you’ve done the I Get to Shift! challenge, you already know the power of shifting from “I have to” to “I get to.” This is gratitude in action.

  • “I have to do the laundry.” → “I get to care for my family.”
  • “I have to go to work.” → “I get to earn and contribute.”
  • “I have to cook dinner.” → “I get to nourish myself and others.”

This simple shift pulls you out of resistance and into appreciation. It turns obligation into opportunity—and boosts your mood instantly.

How to Take Your Daily Dose of Vitamin G

Gratitude doesn’t need to be complicated. Here are a few ways to make it a daily practice:

  1. Morning Gratitude Journaling

Start your day by writing down 3-5 things you’re grateful for. Keep it simple. Be specific.

  • The smell of your morning coffee
  • The softness of your bed
  • A good conversation you had yesterday
  1. “Thank You” Walks

Take a short walk and, with each step, say “thank you” in your mind. Thank your body, the trees, the sky, your life. This can be a walking meditation that grounds you in presence and appreciation.

  1. Reframe the Mundane

Choose one daily task you normally dread and reframe it with “I get to.” Notice how that changes the energy.

  1. Gratitude Before Sleep

End your day by reflecting on one thing that went well, one thing you enjoyed, or one thing you’re thankful for. Let that be the last energy you carry into sleep.

A Few Final Thoughts

Gratitude won’t erase every challenge, but it will shift how you experience it. It’s not about denying the hard stuff—it’s about making space to also notice the beauty, the progress, the good.

The more you practice, the easier it gets. And the more you focus on what you love, the more love flows in.

So here’s your reminder:

You don’t need to wait for life to be perfect to feel grateful. You just need to notice what’s good right now.

Take your daily dose of Vitamin G.
It’s free. It’s powerful. And it just might change everything.

With a heartful of gratitude,
Bonnie

The "I Get To Shift!" 7-Day Challenge - experience the power of a mindset shift in just one week! Take our FREE 7-Day Challenge and see how your Perspective & Mood start elevating and transforming with simple daily shifts!

Ready to change your perspective and feel lighter, happier, and more empowered in just 7 days?

What if three simple words could change how you feel… and how you live? “I GET TO…”

I Get To Shift! – 7 Day Challenge 
A gift to help you kick off summer in a higher vibe.

Every day for 7 days, you’ll learn how to shift from “I have to” ➝ “I get to”
…and watch how your mood, energy, and outlook on life transform.

You’ll get:

  • Daily mindset shifts
  • A beautiful printable workbook
  • Simple practices that uplift your emotions + attract more good
  • A deeper connection to gratitude and possibility

Science shows that just 7 days of consistent practice can actually begin to rewire your brain.

How? It all comes down to neuroplasticity—your brain’s incredible ability to change and adapt. Every time you choose a new thought, reaction, or way of seeing something, you’re creating new neural pathways. And when you do that over several days, those pathways strengthen—making it easier to think differently, feel better, and act with more intention.

This challenge is based on the most-loved concept from my book The Appreciation Game: A 30-Day Process to Increase Happiness, Satisfaction & Well-Being. Day Nine – I Get To… This process is the one so many people told me was their favorite and even life-changing. And this 7-Day Challenge is also a sneak peek into my next book, which is all about how shifting your perception changes your life.

I hope you’ll join in this fun experiment in changing perspective & building good feeling momentum!

You get to feel good!

You get to choose your perspective!

You get to start now!

What Percentage Are You Aligned With Your Desire?

Do you have a desire that you want to create/manifest/live? Want to find out how aligned you are with it and how many things are contradicting it that need to be released and re-aligned? Click below and fill out the form to receive your complimentary Energy Alignment Assessment.
Weekly tips, tools, & processes to help you feel better and live the life of your dreams!

Inputs Matter

What Are You Feeding Your Mind? “Stand guard at the doorway of your mind, letting in only what you wish to manifest.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson Have you

Read More »

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Your Thoughts, Your Stress, Your Shift: Calming the Nervous System from the Inside Out “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

Read More »

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