By Bonnie Durkin - 11/1/22

By Bonnie Durkin - 11/1/22

Author, Speaker, Energy Alignment Practitioner & Personal Empowerment Coach

Wouldn't it Be Nice if...

This article is an excerpt from my book, The Appreciation Game – A 30-Day Process to Increase Happiness, Satisfaction & Well Being!

We all have those things in our life that whenever we think about “that subject” we go right to a negative place. Everyone is different but some common areas that seem to affect a lot of people are money, body weight or look, relationships (that person or persons who drives you crazy), health and job/career.

Every subject is actually two subjects – what you want on one side and what you don’t want on the other side. For example, let’s look at the subject of money: On one side you have prosperity – more than enough money for everything you want and need and on the other side you have scarcity – lack of money or not enough money for your desires and needs.

Because of the Law of Attraction and the neural pathways in your brain, if money is a bad feeling subject for you whenever it comes up – and money is one of those subjects that comes into your awareness many times during a day, you are going to feel negative emotion.

Your emotions are your indicators that tell you if you are in the process of attracting what you want or what you do not want. So, if you are feeling negative emotion, worry, stress, frustration, or fear, then it means that you are tuned to a vibrational Channel that does not allow things to improve for you financially.

So, how do you go about shifting a subject from bad feeling to good feeling?

If you have tried using affirmations and the power of positive thinking you know that just because you’re saying the “right” thing doesn’t necessarily mean that the “current reality” you’re living changes for the better.

If you are saying or thinking positive words and they do not feel true and/or you feel contradicted or uneasy while you’re saying them then your words won’t change anything and in fact could make things worse.

You must be able to evoke positive feelings while you are speaking or thinking about a subject for it to begin to change and improve.

Taking the example of money again: Let’s suppose that something major in your home breaks like a refrigerator and your train of thought goes something like this:
“I can’t believe the refrigerator broke. We can’t afford to replace this. This could not have come at a worse time. Money is really tight right now. We barely have enough to pay for our living expenses. There are so many other things that we need as well. Every time I turn around there is another expense that we can’t afford. We are so deeply in debt I don’t know how we’ll ever get out. What if my husband loses his job? They’ve been doing all kinds of cutbacks at his company. What if I lose my job? What if we can’t pay the mortgage? What if we lose our home? What if we lose our health insurance and someone gets sick? What if we have to move in with my parents?”

What if…, what if…, what if… and your thoughts and the scenarios get worse and worse – more and more scary and negative.

I call this going doing the negative what if… spiral and we all do it from time to time!

But what if you caught yourself doing it and you said, “Wait, stop! I don’t want this!” (lack of money, not enough money) “What is it that I do want?” (more than enough money)
Answer: “I want to have more than enough money to be able to pay for everything we need and want.”

So, if your answer is that you want to have more than enough money, I would recommend that you invest some time pondering the subject and ask yourself:

How do I want to feel about money? You might answer like this:
I want money to be a good feeling subject. I want to feel secure and stable about money. I want money to feel abundant. I want money to feel easy. I want money to feel light and fun! I want to feel really good about the subject of money!

Notice how in the previous paragraph the statements and feelings are very general. I did that on purpose because as soon as you get more specific you often start questioning how it’s going to come about.

When you don’t know the “how’s” you bring negative emotion right back into the equation and you abruptly stop the shift to a more positive feeling vibration.

The Law of Attraction does not care if what you are thinking about is true or not.

The Law of Attraction is reacting to the vibrational signal that you are broadcasting and bringing you back things that match it.

Good feeling thoughts bring back good feeling things and bad feeling thoughts will bring you more things to feel bad about.

Now that you are pointed in the direction of what you want and are feeling better, you can start gently making some “Wouldn’t it be nice if…” statements to build some more good feeling momentum.

Wouldn’t it be nice if…

Wouldn’t it be nice if we received some unexpected money from somewhere.

Wouldn’t it be nice if we found a great deal on a new refrigerator?

Wouldn’t it be nice if my husband’s company restructured and he got a new position with more money?

Wouldn’t it be nice if I met someone and they offered me a fantastic new job with a great salary?

Wouldn’t it be nice if we were able to pay off all our debt?

Wouldn’t it be nice if money shifted and became abundant and easy for us?
Wouldn’t it be nice if we had more than enough money to be able to easily pay for all our expenses and our desires?

You can use whatever words feel good to you. The most important thing is to be light and general about your statements and as soon as you feel any resistance, stop and go back to the most general place by saying to yourself, “wouldn’t it be nice if I could feel good about money?”

You can use this process for any subject that you would like to feel better about. Just follow the example for Money and put in your own words and feelings around your specific subject.

Since most of us are quite good at spinning out negative “what if…” scenarios” why not use your mind to play out positive “wouldn’t be nice…” scenarios?

Today, instead of scaring yourself why not delight and inspire yourself?

Since your mind is always thinking something, why not choose to think something that feels good!

Give it a try and let me know how it goes! – Bonnie

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