Picture of By Bonnie Durkin - 10/3/22

By Bonnie Durkin - 10/3/22

Author, Speaker, Energy Alignment Practitioner & Personal Empowerment Coach

How to Align With What You Want

Everything we want to be, do, or have, we want because we think that when we have it, we will feel better – that we’ll be happier. But there’s an interesting thing that happens because of the universal, law of attraction. We can’t be, have or do anything that we are not a vibrational match to. So, if we are holding out on feeling better until we get that thing or state of being we want, it can never come to us. We can’t have what we don’t already feel. Like attracts like and however we are dominantly feeling, is what we are attracting back to us.

  • You can’t be rich if you are feeling poor.
  • You can’t be slim if you are feeling fat.
  • You can’t be successful if you feel like a failure.
  • You can’t find love unless you feel lovable.
  • You can’t be healthy if you are focused on how sick you feel.

You must find a way to stop focusing on what your current reality is and find a way to imagine beyond what is, to become what you want to be.

This can be very tricky to do, especially if what you are living now, is right in your face.

For example: a body that is sick, or hurts, or doesn’t look the way you want. Or a bank account that doesn’t have enough money in it to pay the bills.

Below is an easy exercise you can use to start shifting the focus of your thoughts from what is, to what you want. – Bonnie

Align With Your Desire Process

This is a simple process that allows you to refocus your thoughts, remove the contradictions from your energy and start “feeling your way” towards manifesting what you desire.

Let’s say that you’d like to have more money, but your present reality is that you don’t have enough money to pay your bills easily and do the things you want to do. So, you know clearly what you don’t want, lack of money, not enough money.

Now ask yourself, what is it that I do want?

More than enough money to easily pay my bills and do the things I want to do.

Then ask yourself, why do I want more money?

I want more money so I can easily pay my bills on time. I want more money so I can pay off our debts. I want more money so I can start saving and create some financial security. I want more money so I can buy the things I want to buy (you can be as specific as you want). I want more money so I can help the people I love. I want more money so I can contribute to my favorite causes. I want more money so I can remodel our home or buy a better home. I want more money so I can travel. I want more money so I can be free to do what I want, when I want to. Etc.

Now ask yourself, how would I feel if I had the amount of money I’d like to have? – if I was actually living that reality.

I would feel free. I would feel confident. I would feel secure. I would feel empowered. I would feel abundant. I would feel at ease. I would feel prosperous. I would feel like I had lots of choices. I would feel… etc.

Now get a notebook or a piece of paper and spend a few minutes going through the exercise below.

  1. I don’t want (my present reality)…
  2. I do want…
  3. I want it because…
  4. When I have it/have become it/living it, I will feel…
  5. Now pretend that this has happened (don’t worry about or think about the hows) spend some time each day imagining yourself living it.

The universe doesn’t care whether what you are thinking about is “real” or imagined. If you think about it long enough to start generating strong positive emotions the law of attraction will start bringing you “things” that are a vibrational match to what you are feeling.

Here’s an important note for you to keep in mind, do this exercise for the fun of it. Do it because it feels good to think about things that feel good when you are thinking about them. Don’t do it because you are trying to fix something or make something happen because that will cause contradictions in your energy and slow it down. Imagine it, just for the pleasure that it gives you to do it!

Happy Aligning! – Bonnie

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