Last week, we talked about Closing the Gap—that space between where you are right now and where you want to be. We explored how to become a vibrational match to your desires by aligning your emotions and energy with what you want, instead of what you don’t.

This week, I want to take that idea a little deeper.

Because here’s the truth: every subject has two sides.

• On one side is what you want.
• On the other side is what you don’t want.

And every time that subject comes up in your mind, you’re activating one side or the other.

Two Sides of the Same Coin

Let’s take money, for example:

• On one side is abundance, prosperity, ease, and security.
• On the other is scarcity, lack, and fear of not having enough.

Or relationships:

• On one side is love, connection, joy, and appreciation.
• On the other is conflict, frustration, or loneliness.

Or your body:

• On one side is health, vitality, and strength.
• On the other is exhaustion, self-criticism, or illness.

The subject is the same. What changes is which side you practice activating.

What You Practice, You Strengthen

Most of us unintentionally practice the don’t want side of our subjects without realizing it. We complain about bills, replay arguments, or criticize ourselves in the mirror.

Each time we do, we’re strengthening neural pathways in the brain and reinforcing vibrational patterns that line us up with more of the same.

But here’s the good news: you can shift sides.

When you start deliberately practicing thoughts and feelings that line up with what you do want, you rewire both your brain and your energy. Over time, it becomes easier and more natural to lean into the “want” side of your subjects—and your reality begins to reflect that.

The Emotional Guidance System

Your emotions are always telling you which side you’re on.

• If you feel stressed, anxious, or heavy when you think about a subject—you’re tuned to the “don’t want” side.
• If you feel lighter, hopeful, or inspired—you’re tuned to the “want” side.

Your job isn’t to jump from one extreme to the other overnight. It’s to gently notice where you’re placing your focus and shift toward the side that feels even a little bit better.

A Simple Practice: Catch and Pivot

This week, try this exercise:

1. Notice a Trigger Subject. Pick something that often pulls you into negative emotion—money, health, work, or a relationship.
2. Catch Yourself. When it comes up, pause and ask: Which side am I activating right now—the want or the don’t want?
3. Pivot Gently. Shift your thoughts by asking: What do I want instead? or How do I want to feel about this subject?
4. Stay General. Keep your focus light and broad. Instead of specifics (which can trigger resistance), use general statements like:
   • I want this subject to feel easier.
   • I want to feel supported.
   • I’d love for this to start improving.

Over time, this simple practice helps you strengthen the neural pathways and vibrational patterns that align you with what you desire.

Final Thoughts

Every subject has two sides. Which side you practice determines the life you live.

The gap between where you are and where you want to be is simply a matter of which side you’re tuning into, moment by moment.

When you start consistently activating the “want” side—through your thoughts, feelings, and expectations—you close the gap, step into alignment, and allow your dreams to meet you.

✨ And if you’re ready to go deeper into this work, join me for my upcoming free workshop: Close the Gap Between You & Your Dreams. Together, we’ll explore how to shift your mindset, align your energy, and step into the life you’ve been dreaming of.

Happy Choosing!
Bonnie